Good afternoon,
You know, I never wept a drop when my ex left me. My last gf I do miss deeply but again have the same thoughts - if I couldn't make her happy I am glad that she chose to go rather than staying with me and being unhappy.
Loving someone, I think, means being able to accept that sometimes their happiness may not lie with you but on a different path.
While good riddens to my ex, the 2 1/2 years with my gf were much more happy, enjoyable and filled with love for me than the 7 years with my ex-wife. I consider myself lucky that we had that 2 1/2 years together as it gave me such joy.
I always accept that some things are not forever as much as we might want them to be. And we have to be prepared for this too. But they are essential roads we need to travel on as they prepare us for when we do meet the one we should be with. It is how we grow as people, throught these experiences.
But does the loss hurt? Of course! But I also know that the relationships that I've had including my marriage have made me a better man and thus better in my subsequent relationships with women.
And also I've come to realize that I might be better off alone. Whoever first said that "A Porsche will get you through times of no sex better than sex will get you through times of no Porsche" was dead spot on. Except of course switching Corvette for Porsche!!
I am lucky to have met a great lady recently, a widow of 9 months who was married for 33 years to her high school sweetheart. It is uncomplicated, simple and straightforward. We are thankful for the time when we get to see one another since we are 2 hours apart. But we talk on the phone and email several times a day.
Neither of us are looking for marriage or even an emotionally deep relationship. It is meeting our needs right now and we both consider ourselves so lucky.
May fate also smile upon you in the same way Colin. I can think of no fellow I've met recently who I think would be so deserving.
Cheers,
Garry
