Good morning Colin,
I'll share this with you and everyone else. One of the greatest professional mentors in my life was Garry Coy who at the time I first met him was the regional soil specialist for Alberta Agriculture. He was transferring his position from Fairview to Spirit River which was a good part of the reason why I applied for and was lucky enough to get the job that I had for about 16 years prior to my returning to Grimshaw. Garry and I worked together in the same office for about three years as I recall, he then left to work for the Canola Council, Monsanto and a few other companies. When possible we continued to work together and Garry was able to send work my way on several occasions which helped me with my work. Garry eventually left and divorced his wife.
When I got married myself Garry was onwe of the few people I invited to the wedding - I didn't do the inviting the distance cousins BS as I elected to only invite those people that had made a real influence in my life.
Garry eventually moved to Calgary where he remarried, just before or after Christmas one eyar. Within weeks she left him.
I was lucky enough to be going to Calgary for a meeting and when I learned I had a few hours before my flight left I contacted Garry and he met me at the airport and we went to a bar and had a few drinks and I laughed so much.
Garry walked with me to my departing gate and we hugged and I boarded my flight, this was a Tuesday I think.
That Friday, Garry killed himself. The reason why? Apparently his ex filed a restraiing order against him and he saw her that week in the parking lot and honked his horm and waved at her. She (apparently) subsequently had him served with papers to have him charged with breaking that order on the Thursday night or Friday morning. He left humiliated.
I lost a dear friend.
It got worse if you can image. She had asked Garry to change his will and he never changed it after she left so she was the sole beneficiery of his estate. Worse yet, she had him cremated and there was no funeral and I don't even have a gravesite to visit.
Change your will too if you have not already done so, protect yourself please.
I'm not sure why I'm sharing this with you Colin, it just short of shocked me when you said how your ex responded to your birthday wishes. Sadly for whatever reason she has gone and moved on and so be it.
As brutal as it may be you need to have as little to do with her as possible. She has chosen her path and respect it and don't contact her again for your own piece of mind. I am not sure how women are able to do this, my ex did the same to me. I felt used for 7 years and then she just disposed of me so easily. It hurt.
But now I am in a much happier place in my life. I give thanks daily that if she was unhappy being married to me she left when she did and did not continue to lie to me any longer. It took me a bit of time, the divorce was bitter but I am so much happier now in my life now that she is gone. Never again. Sadly for my current gf I will never be able to put myself out there emotionally like I did when I was married, I can't see myself doing that again anyway.
You're a good person Colin and if your ex couldn't see that it is her loss.
I know that my world is better having had the experience to have met you when I was down this year and you are a decent, giving and generous person, perhaps to a fault even! I so very much enjoyed meeting you and the time we spend enjoying our cars together. I laugh when I read your posts and comments here (perhaps except for this one!) and all I can say to you is that better times are coming for you!
Focus on everything that is good and right in your life, all those that care for you and of course your bevy of beauties in your garage!!
For all the goodness in your life that I can wish you to have as a friend and until we cross paths again on the road...............
Your friend and with hugs!!
Garry
it may sound cliche but sometimes we have to wade through pile after pile of crap to get to where we want to be in life.
